MY APPROACH

As trust in the therapy process develops over the initial period of therapy, the therapeutic hour becomes a safe place where you can explore the issues and events that are affecting you. Self-recognition and acceptance grow as you are able to see more clearly the truth of liabilities, strengths, vulnerabilities, and gifts. Seeing clearly, it is easier to act with conscious intention, integrity, and compassion in an increasingly whole way.  Work behavior and relationships, home and family relationships, and your relationship with yourself all improve as the underlying difficulties are uncovered and worked through. Are you overly critical of yourself and others? Does your anxiety interfere with optimal performance?  Are you in a situation, either at home or at work, that you find unfulfilling? Psychotherapy helps you see more clearly what is actually going on and helps guide you in developing strategies to address the stressors and issues causing distress. 


Psychotherapy can help you explore your feelings, aspirations, and fears and help you find your way to greater self-assurance, more healthy and productive relationships, and more pleasure and satisfaction in your life and career.  Through weekly therapy sessions, we can explore together the issues and behaviors which get in the way of your optimal functioning, and address issues that are interfering with your achieving the goals you have set for yourself.  

 

The couples therapy process is essentially a means of seeking an authentic and adaptive way of relating to oneself, and to one’s partner.  Ownership and compromise are key components of the process as each member of the couple become more conscious of the truth of their own behavior, and its impact on their partner.  Over time, many couples are able to repair the relationship as each partner increasingly sees and takes responsibility for “their half” of the conflict and becomes more compassionate about their failings, and more clear about their strengths.  This facilitates increased acceptance of the partner’s relationship challenges and recognition of their strengths.

 

As a witness of a couple’s process, I can help both members learn to hold themselves as they open more fully to knowing what it is that they long for, where they have failed themselves and their partner, how they can be wonderful, and how they can be challenging and sometimes impossible. 

Often what first is experienced as a purely sexual issue, such as “She just doesn’t want me, we never have sex anymore,” actually includes other relationship issues. Education, exploration, and open conversation can lead to insight and a clearer picture of what’s going on in the sexual relationship. 

 

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